Flunk the F Students and Work with the As

This morning I woke up with a headache and tons of tension in my neck and shoulder. My house is super clean as I have been working on my habits, but doing habits consistently means not having time to play catch up. I am trying to stop the letting things build up and mad catching-up cycles in my life. So, no matter what I am sticking with the habits and routines I have created and getting a good night’s sleep every night.

Still, when I meditated I was back to sitting at this desk with more papers than I knew what to do with. Yesterday, I got some insight on how to deal with the boring aspect of my work. ADHD people don’t like doing the mundane, monotonous boring stuff you have to do in life… So we procrastinate, do something we want to do instead, meanwhile the stuff piles up. Then stress and tension hits in!

So today I was at the desk again, with this ginormous stack of papers. I told my spirit guide, even if I make this less boring, and work faster, there are still just way too many papers for me to handle. That’s when I got it. My meditations are always visual and metaphors. She told me to start going through the papers one by one, grading them, and throw the F’s in the trash.

It occurred to me that this is much like parenting, and other things in our lives. The whiny, demanding, attention needy brat gets all your attention because they won’t shut the hell up. Meanwhile, the A student kid who gets up early does her chores and doesn’t cause problems gets neglected. My spirit guide told me to start flunking the F students and move them out of my class.

Start working with the A students who are motivated, patient, nice, don’t whine, and annoy you until you cave and do what they want. Stop working with the Fs and start working with the people you like, that value your time and your talents.

So with that, I have started marking my to-do list with who I consider my “A students”. The people I actually like working with and want to keep as clients. And flunking the Fs. They are slowly going to be weeded out of my classroom as I work on creating my own elite school of All-Star, motivated, passionate, hard-working and positive people.

How to Get Faster Faster

I blog a lot but haven’t written anything here in forever. My new goal is to blog on Girl with Blue Energy every day. One of the things I have been working on in my personal life is habits. I have started 7 habits over the last three weeks. I started with 3, and have slowly added a few more. One of my habits is to write one blog post a day. Generally, these blog posts are for clients. I write a lot for Badass Web Goddess. Writing is part of my SEO business. However, because of how much writing I do for other people, I barely have any time for my own personal blogs. I am changing that.

One of the things I have been meditating about is how to get faster, faster. I keep working on my habits, but sometimes writing a client’s blog post takes me hours. With a goal to write one a day, and having tons more that I need to write, I have been frustrated. I keep working on writing consistently in hopes that I will get faster. I know practice makes perfect, but I want to get faster faster!!

Today, I did my emotional check-in, meditating, and talked with my spirit guide. She gave me some insight I hadn’t thought about. She reminded me of how much faster I used to run when I ran with my son. He runs fast and would always pace me faster than I liked to run. Now, I don’t have a running partner for writing, not yet anyway. But, I still got something from my meditation.

I can’t write fast for all my clients. Some of them are nitpicky and want really high-quality writing. You kinda have to take your time with that. But, I can practice my writing speed here on the Girl with Blue Energy. This is my personal blog. It’s about my meditation and ME! While I do write some content to be informative, some of it’s just for me.

I am adding a new habit to my list of habits, work on my writing speed. Do writing speed drills. Don’t worry about the posts, being perfect. Just write fast and publish one post a day on Girl with Blue Energy. Perhaps this will diminish the quality of my writing, but what I am hoping for is that I get faster and better at writing. And that ultimately this will be my most successful blog.

How can you use this in your own life? Is there anything you are trying to improve your efficiency with? Try doing speed drills. Time yourself and do it as fast as you can.

How to Deal with Emotional Distractions

How do you keep your emotions from killing your productivity? Once upon a time I kicked ass at being productive. I often joke that I built my business by having one manic episode after another. When I am manic, I can do anything. I am productive, hyper-focused, funnier, more creative, and most importantly I can get things done… However, when I am depressed or having a mixed episode I can’t accomplish anything. My emotions affect me more than other people, but everyone at some point or another will find themselves distracted by their emotions.

One of the things I have talked about in other posts is how important happiness is for my productivity. It’s a topic motivation and time management books seem to lack. Most of the books I have read focus on external distractions, like urgency addiction and interruptions. They don’t talk about how to get work done when you are depressed or emotionally distracted.

The other day I decided I wanted to set my mind to coming up with a system for dealing with my emotional distractions. My emotional triggers are endless. Some days I get absolutely nothing done because of this. Maybe you can relate. Emotional distractions are internal distractions (going on inside your head) that takes away your attention and focus from your productivity. For me they are things like people being mad at me or me being angry, PTSD triggers, or trying to make a big decision. Sometimes the littlest things can set my mind off for hours.

So, what can you do to keep yourself from getting emotionally distracted?

Write a list

When I am spinning with anxiety, I struggle with my routines. I don’t write lists. I spend my whole morning reading Facebook, or thinking about how my childhood has fucked up my whole life. I can get completely overwhelmed by triggers and sucked into a non-productive emotional tailspin. The easiest way for me to stop my morning depression is to get out of bed, make coffee, sit down, and write a list. The act of writing a list helps me sort out what to do and prioritize my tasks. Even when you are emotional you can write a list. Don’t worry about whether or not you will get any of it done, just write it.

Get rid of external distractions

Before you can attempt to be productive, eliminate the external distractions. External distractions will create emotional distractions.. For example, as I was trying to write this blog post, my kids came into the room and interrupted me. This made me angry. I was so angry I couldn’t finish writing. Feeling angry interferes with my productivity all the time. Sometimes I can get back on track, but sometimes when I get interrupted a lot I just give up. Plan your time to work around when you will be distraction-free. Don’t try to do big projects when you are going to be interrupted.

Do one simple task

I remember a viral blog post about depression discussing the impossible task. When you are depressed, the simplest task can throw you for a loop. If your list is overwhelming, pick one thing you can do that will take no more than 15 minutes and do it. For me, it could be writing one paragraph or even writing one sentence. The point is, whatever it is, make it something you can do easily and in 15 minutes. The act of checking something off your list, boosts your dopamine levels and improves your mood.

Play some music

Research shows that music has an effect on your mood, productivity, and even how hard you exercise. I have found that putting on upbeat music can help me to improve my mood so I can focus. What kind of music should you listen to? It depends on what you are trying to do. If you just want a mood-lifter anything upbeat that you like will work. But, if you are trying to do a task that requires thinking, you need music that doesn’t distract you with lyrics. My “thinking music” is loud metal music with lyrics that aren’t melodic, but orchestra music will work or music with a simple three-chord structure.

Do some exercise

Exercise is my number one mood-stabilizer and stress reliever. If I am finding myself emotional and distracted, I will stop what I am doing and go for a run or climb my stairs. Exercise helps me to release negative energy. Usually when I am done I can focus better.

Meditation

I meditate regularly. While it doesn’t always work, meditation is often just what I need to get my emotions in check. Because I am an empath, I have a hard time sorting out my feelings from others. When I meditate, I use a visual exercise to help me sort out and contain my emotions. I will imagine each emotion and then try to identify what’s causing it and whose feelings they are. Then I will place the emotions in jars and seal them. Sometimes this exercise helps me to compartmentalize my feelings in a healthy way so I can focus.

Talk to yourself

Talking to yourself does not mean you are crazy. Even if you answer yourself. In fact, for people like me with ADHD, it’s a great tool for productivity. I often post pep talks to myself on Facebook all day when I am trying to get a project done or I will go for a walk and have a conversation with myself. Talking your way through a task helps you to complete it.

The completion of a task boosts your emotional energy. It’s taken me a couple days to complete the task of writing this, but the act of writing it has helped me in a couple ways. First off, I completed one of my tasks for today, but additionally thinking through this problem and writing out tips was helpful for me. I hope that it helps you as well.